There was a brief period of time when i really strived for achievement but it because clear, quite quickly that it was not what i was after. My values are quite simple and it doesnt take much to maintain them but it does take a fair bit of effort to question them when others (who i know have similar values to me) continually seek achievement. A friend bought a Porsche on the weekend and my immediate response was eeew what a waste of money. Im sure they like the car but im sure a big part of it is the status that comes with it (like the Rolex he got for his bday) - a way of showing others (or themselves) that they have 'achieved.
I know we have pretty simple values, & my response to a friend buying a Porsche would also be “what a waste of money” I think for a long time I’ve seen myself as a failure because what I see as my achievements are not seen as your typical achievements, but I think I am finally realising it doesn’t matter how others see me.
My life has definitely been centred around achievement but only recently have I appreciated that achievement without alignment is a hungry ghost, it will never be satisfied. Only once I had finally climbed my personal Everest did I realise that the top of one mountain is also the bottom of another 😆 I am most definitely in my alignment era now!
When I think about it…I chose achievement (career, striver) …now looking for alignment! Never too old right? I was pregnant at 21 and married within a few months …now 55 years of marriage! We are all the same but different!
I think I need to listen to this podcast!! I always feel like I’m never enough, never achieved enough, should have a better job or career and be earning more. I’m also happy just to be at home and not have lots of holidays. It’s really nice to know there are others souls like me around, thanks for a great read.
There was a brief period of time when i really strived for achievement but it because clear, quite quickly that it was not what i was after. My values are quite simple and it doesnt take much to maintain them but it does take a fair bit of effort to question them when others (who i know have similar values to me) continually seek achievement. A friend bought a Porsche on the weekend and my immediate response was eeew what a waste of money. Im sure they like the car but im sure a big part of it is the status that comes with it (like the Rolex he got for his bday) - a way of showing others (or themselves) that they have 'achieved.
I know we have pretty simple values, & my response to a friend buying a Porsche would also be “what a waste of money” I think for a long time I’ve seen myself as a failure because what I see as my achievements are not seen as your typical achievements, but I think I am finally realising it doesn’t matter how others see me.
Fascinating stuff, Reannon, and so well written. (And I’m not just saying that because you’re speaking my language.)
Such a gift to know yourself so well, trust your instincts, and stay true to yourself…a gift to your family too I’m sure.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts xx
Thank you for complimenting my writing, that always gives me such a thrill when anyone says that x
My life has definitely been centred around achievement but only recently have I appreciated that achievement without alignment is a hungry ghost, it will never be satisfied. Only once I had finally climbed my personal Everest did I realise that the top of one mountain is also the bottom of another 😆 I am most definitely in my alignment era now!
maybe achievement era’s are for the young but once you get to a certain age it’s all about alignment!
When I think about it…I chose achievement (career, striver) …now looking for alignment! Never too old right? I was pregnant at 21 and married within a few months …now 55 years of marriage! We are all the same but different!
never too old!
I think I need to listen to this podcast!! I always feel like I’m never enough, never achieved enough, should have a better job or career and be earning more. I’m also happy just to be at home and not have lots of holidays. It’s really nice to know there are others souls like me around, thanks for a great read.
I’m always pleased to know I am not the only one too x