Hello 2025

You better not be an arsehole!

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Hey friends! Guess what? This was the first year in 10 years that I did not entirely stick to my social media holiday, and I feel pretty crappy about it. I wasn’t looking at shit daily, but I did check in a few times. I don’t know what was happening to me, my brain wouldn’t stop, it still hasn’t, and I felt both jumpy and sleepy. It hasn’t felt like a holiday or break. I’m back to work on Monday, but my kids still have a month until they go back to school, so watch us slowly unravel while we try to navigate that! I’ve just said to my husband that for the rest of January, I think we should do 4-day weeks. He said yes, but the man has a work ethic like no other, so I bet he doesn’t stick to it. His loss!

I’m usually a big one for goals and challenges. I love the energy of a new year, but so far, I am not feeling it. All I would like is for 2025 to be easier than last year. Sadly, not everything is in my control, so I have decided to control what I can and make 2025 easier on myself in as many ways as possible.

Here are the ways I am going to do that.

I am not going to pressure myself to do anything. As much as I love rules and boundaries, in 2025, I am giving myself permission to do what I want when I want. There will be no pressure to read more books than last year I’ll read as much, or as little, as I want. There will be no pressure to make everything from scratch just because I can. If I want to buy the packet biscuits or premade pizza bases, I will. There will be no pressure to change things about myself by a certain time. I’m looking at my mental and physical health as long-term things, always needing some level of attention and care.

I am not saying yes when I really want to say no. I’ll help at school when I feel I can, not because I feel bad if I don’t. I will not accept social invitations when all I really want to do is stay at home. I am not going to be at the beck and call of my family, some days they will have to fend for themselves.

I am not going to apologise for who I am. I am a homebody. I like home best. When I do socialise, I talk too much. I’m loud, and I swear A LOT. I’ve become a basic bitch with my style. Gone are the patterned and colourful clothes I was obsessed with. All I want now are comfortable, basic clothes, and I am not going to feel like I have given up because of that. I decided I wanted to dye my hair after 5 years of being proudly dye-free, and I am not going to feel like a traitor for doing that. I am addicted to Coke No Sugar (in a can forever and always), and that is OK. I am not feeling bad about myself in 2025.

I am not going to be influenced by others. Well, I’m going to try. I didn’t realise how much this had happened until I stopped using Instagram for most of 2024. Everything from skincare to books and clothing was often bought because I saw it online. I’d hear about someone’s routine or hobbies they were cultivating and think, “Maybe I should try that?”. I feel like I lost my own taste for a while, and even if my taste is veering into basic bitch territory, I want it back.

I’m not going to force myself to use my cookbooks or experiment in the kitchen. I will when I feel like it, but otherwise, I am going to stick to simple and basic meals, maybe make a rotation of the most loved meals and just cook those for a while. I put far too much pressure on myself when it comes to how I feed my family and myself! I am going to keep things easy!

I am also going to try my very hardest not to worry about money, spending and saving. I can tie myself in knots trying to budget or decide if I should buy something. I am a naturally cautious person when it comes to money; I can’t help it, but it does get tiring. Money comes. Money goes. So long as we have a little saved and enough for all our day-to-day living, I think I’m going to chill out about the rest.

And that, my friends, is how I plan to move through 2025 with ease. I swear, if this year kicks me in the tits like last year, I am going to lose it! So let’s manifest a better, easier year as though our lives depend on it!

What are your plans for the coming year? Are you manifesting? Got a big goal? Or are you a word-of-the-year type of person? What’s your 2025 vibe?

Talk soon xx